Wedding planning. No-one ever warns you how much work actually goes in to creating a day that will be forever in people's memories, Facebook, instagram, photographs on the wall, the list goes on. Since getting engaged in October I've had a whirlwind few months of looking at venues, going to wedding fairs, (inhaling all the free prosecco, ahem), trawling the internet for postboxes and dresses and flowers and photographers, creating save the date cards, making the guest list, and the hardest part. Making sure we had everyone's address to send the save the dates to!
From my side it was easy, but my fiancé works 70-80 hour weeks and struggled to contact everyone. It was definitely a labour of love, but we eventually filled a Moleskine address book (£2.50 in the January sale of a random shop in St Pancras!) with all of the addresses of our loved ones.
Then came another awkward moment: names. So many of our close friends have changed their names in the last few years. At least a quarter or more of our wedding guests are doctors, be that medical, dental, or PhD. Several envelopes had to be torn up and rewritten as I tiredly wrote "Mr". Then, there are the people who have married in recent years. It felt so strange to be writing "Mr and Mrs" on those envelopes. And don't even get me started on the couples engaged or living together but not married. I didn't know whether to put first names, Mr this and Miss that (looks a bit clumsy on an envelope),
Argh! Wedding planning is definitely making me overthink everything. Including my own name. When we marry I'll become Mrs, but two years later (all going to plan) I will also be Dr. My fiancé and I both have the same initial, so do I take his name and us both me Dr and Dr A H, or take his name legally and keep mine professionally, or double-barrel?? I feel that name-changing is one of the most life-changing things that one can do. I have to get it right.
From my side it was easy, but my fiancé works 70-80 hour weeks and struggled to contact everyone. It was definitely a labour of love, but we eventually filled a Moleskine address book (£2.50 in the January sale of a random shop in St Pancras!) with all of the addresses of our loved ones.
Then came another awkward moment: names. So many of our close friends have changed their names in the last few years. At least a quarter or more of our wedding guests are doctors, be that medical, dental, or PhD. Several envelopes had to be torn up and rewritten as I tiredly wrote "Mr". Then, there are the people who have married in recent years. It felt so strange to be writing "Mr and Mrs" on those envelopes. And don't even get me started on the couples engaged or living together but not married. I didn't know whether to put first names, Mr this and Miss that (looks a bit clumsy on an envelope),
Argh! Wedding planning is definitely making me overthink everything. Including my own name. When we marry I'll become Mrs, but two years later (all going to plan) I will also be Dr. My fiancé and I both have the same initial, so do I take his name and us both me Dr and Dr A H, or take his name legally and keep mine professionally, or double-barrel?? I feel that name-changing is one of the most life-changing things that one can do. I have to get it right.
